Honoring my fatherBy Randell Tiongson on July 24th, 2017
One of the biggest issues that faces the world today is the problem of fatherlessness. It is said that it is the father who gives an identity to a child. When the father is absent or abdicates his duties, a multitude of problems arises. Studies show that the absence of a father or a father-figure can cause children to under-perform, be prone to substance abuses, be in poverty and live a life of dysfunctions. But take heart, we have a Father in heaven who will be more than enough to give you your identity and deliver you from the troubles of this world: “One God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all.” (Ephesians 4:6, ESV ) I am throughly blessed to have an intimate relationship with God as my father the moment I gave my life to Jesus.
Among the many things I am so thankful to the Lord is that I have never experienced the issue of fatherlessness. In all my 50 years of existence, other than the Lord, there was a man who has always been there in my life: providing for me, guiding me, disciplining me, molding me and have given me my identity. I honor my father for who he is and everything he did in my life and for my family. My Dad was a great model to me. To those who know my father, they will see that his impartation in my life is very strong — I am hard working, fiercely loyal to my wife, a provider and protector of my own family, disciplined and God fearing… all thanks to my father. One of the specific imprints he left in me was financial preparedness. Growing up, I would often question why he was very tough on money matters and why he kept telling us to be financially abled and financially prepared. When it comes to finances, he knew that tough love was needed for us to grow understanding the value of hard work and control. While I did not understand why in the past, I fully understand now and in fact the many lessons I learned from him are what I teach today. I would often say in my talks that my first finance mentor was my father, he is the first financial planner I ever met.
My Dad has left his imprint in all his children and that goes beyond finances. My siblings are all fiercely loyal to their families, and all are God-fearing, because of him.
Dad, I honor you… 85 years is too short for a good man, a good father to us and a role model to me. I am comforted that you will finally rest, knowing that you have prepared me and my siblings in the adventure of life despite the trials and imperfections of this world. I take greater comfort that you have entered a place where there is no more sorrow and where life is perfect eternally, basking in glory of the Lord.
Farewell Dad and thank you. I love you.
Ricardo Tantoco Tiongson, 1932-2017